The reality is that we all know when we are following our passion or our heart’s desire because it feels right. Everyone has experienced this feeling of ‘rightness’ at some time in his/her life. It’s called integrity. And it’s easy to recognize. It’s a sense of real comfort. A feeling that life is good and that life is moving freely in and through you. It’s that feeling of ease, when you experience no discomfort, no obstructions, no limitations, no doubts.
你知道这是好事，因为它是生命的自由流动通过你，仿佛整个宇宙中，并通过您的合作。 而在事实上，这是发生了什么。 这是它的现实。 因为当你在流，生活中的一切 is 在通过你，与你合作。 这是什么使得它感觉很不错。
The Cause of our Suffering and Discomfort
因此，我们发现了什么我们所有的任意信念和信仰体系确实是阻止并通过我们生活的自由，自发的表达。 这就是为什么我们受苦。 这就是为什么我们感觉不适。 这就是为什么我们的经验就是我们所说的利益冲突。 有什么东西在阻止通过我们生命的自由流动。 什么是限制我们的自由。 东西，我们无法表达宇宙的意志和创造力。 这使我们受苦。 这是痛苦是什么。 局限性。
When we understand this, we understand that what we call our true desire, our heart’s desire, is really our becoming conscious of this free flowing life that is working in and through us. Or you could say we become aware that our heart’s desire is actually the will of the entire universe or of the great universal creativity expressing itself through us.
The Pain of Not Listening
What happens when we don’t listen? When we don’t follow the inner voice and listen to our heart’s desire. When we do what other people want us to do or what they say we should do or when we follow our uninvestigated beliefs and ‘shoulds’?
I can only speak for myself and tell you that in my experience, trying to live up to my own uninvestigated ‘shoulds’ and beliefs has caused me so much unnecessary anguish. It’s easy to say this now when I am able to see what I was doing so much more clearly, but when I was in the midst of it, all I can say is that it was truly hell! I guess that is what hell is – unconsciously causing ourselves so much pain and suffering! Until we wake up and discover that this is the only suffering there is. The pain and suffering we cause ourselves.
The only suffering there is,
is the suffering we cause ourselves.
My Deathbed Technique
Many years ago when I began contemplating the challenge of following my inner impulses and my heart’s desire, I developed what I called “my deathbed technique”. I found that the deathbed technique is a great exercise when I’m feeling insecure, weak or shaky and uncertain about following my heart’s desire, especially when I fear the disapproval of others.
The exercise is a kind of creative visualization technique in which I imagine myself on my deathbed, looking back at this moment where I lack the courage of my convictions! And then I try to envision how I will feel on my deathbed if I do not honor the highest and best in myself at this very moment in time. For me, it’s always a devastating thought and makes decision-making a lot easier!
The technique helps me envision how I will feel if I do not take the road which can lead me up higher and closer to being fully aligned with who I am.
When playing around with this technique, I also discovered that you can use it to strengthen your resolve in the little, everyday situations of life that also demand courage. Take an ordinary situation like this:
You are a woman sitting in a café with your girlfriend drinking a cappuccino. At the next table, there are some interesting men and you’d really like to talk to them. Your shyness, your fear of disapproval, your ideas about what women ‘should’ and ‘shouldn’t’ do, and your fear of making a fool of yourself prevent you from turning to them and saying something. If you remember the deathbed technique at a moment like this, it can really help.
You can ask yourself how you will feel when you are 92 and leaving this planet if you look back at this moment of your life? How will it feel to realize that you had the gift of life but didn’t dare to follow your impulse to talk to the men (who are just human beings like you) at the next table because you were afraid of disapproval? Because you were afraid of doing something that would take you out of your comfort zone.
You will probably discover that you will feel rather ridiculous when you view this situation from the larger perspective of your life. And from the larger perspective, what is the worse that can happen if you follow your inner impulse and step out of your comfort zone? The men at the next table might ignore you? They might laugh at you? They might think you are dumb or not be interested in talking to you and your girlfriend? And if that happens, so what?
Not following your inner impulses in all the little situations like this in life also means you miss so many great opportunities to meet new people, have fun, make new contacts, and widen your circle of friends.
You can never know where following your heart’s desire can lead. But being inhibited or limited by your concepts will most certainly prevent you from acting spontaneously and prevent you from finding out! So in situations like this, the deathbed technique is the perfect tool to show you how limiting your concepts may be when it comes to living a happy, fulfilled and exciting life!
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