成为富有同情心的，肯定生命的一种变革，无论您是否获得公开承认的奖励的一部分，是你在做衡量好知识。 没有什么理论你的礼物作为变革的代理人。 它通常可以是匿名的，但贡献是相当真实。
有实际上是对幸福的一个国际研究数据库：在 世界快乐报告。 通过发布可持续发展解决方案网络（SDSN），第一 世界快乐报告 发表在四月2012。 最新发布四月23，2015。
要创建调查，研究团队通过在福利国家的调查数据，包括国家平均寿命评估的排名，根据盖洛普世界民意调查数据审查国家。 但是，他们特别强调从上涨的一系列问题的每一个人的主观评价一个人有多大的自由感觉，他们有权选择自己的道路，他们如何捐赠给慈善机构。 他们问：“把所有东西放在一起，你会说你是：很开心，很快乐，不是很幸福，还是一点也不幸福？”他们寻求这种主观的数据，因为他们“重视，人们作出的评估至关重要自己的生活。 这让他们没有专家构建指数可能曾经有一个现实和力量。“
该研究不仅是衡量幸福的，但它也研究是什么让人们快乐。 作为哈佛医学院的 HEALTHbeat 它解释说，“人们往往会出现什么会令他们快乐的穷人法官。 虽然大多数人说他们想要得到快乐，他们往往相信神话或携带的假设，实际上得到的方式。“
金钱能否买到幸福的问题已经，超过30年，被处理的“伊斯特林悖论”，由经济学家理查德·伊斯特林提出的一个概念。 他的研究表明，人们在贫穷国家时，他们的衣食住行都包括在内快乐。 但是，任何超出的钱不会使幸福水平太大的差别。
(1) when you do something, commit yourself fully and “lose awareness of time”;
(2) whatever you do, give yourself over to it so that “you aren’t thinking of yourself”;
(3) as you are doing whatever it is you do that makes you feel happy, do it in a manner so you “aren’t interrupted by extraneous thoughts while you are doing it”;
(4) be proactive in your life, not passive; and
(5) although the work may be hard and demanding, work at it effortlessly because you believe in what you are doing.
If you can do that, you are “in the flow,” and that will lead to happiness. Life-affirming choices create happiness and happiness is contagious.
Emotional Contagion: When You're Happy, Others Become Happy
Nicholas A. Christakis, a medical sociologist at Harvard University who has been a leader in this research area, says:
One determinant of our own happiness that has not received the attention it deserves is the happiness of others. Yet we know that emotions can spread over short periods of time from person to person, in a process known as “emotional contagion.” If someone smiles at you, it is instinctive to smile back. If your partner or roommate is depressed, it is common for you to become depressed.
Although we may believe that our emotional state is the result of our choices and actions and experiences, researchers have found it also depends on the choices and actions and experiences of other people, including people to whom you are not directly connected. Christakis and his research partner James Fowler say it explicitly: “Happiness is contagious.”
In their study, 4,739 people were followed over two decades. Like all good longitudinal studies, those years mellowed the research data like a good wine, giving it gravitas. Christakis and his colleagues discovered that if you are happy or become happy you increase the probability that someone you know will be happy just through a casual interaction with you.
Happiness and the Third Degree of Separation
Even more surprising, the Harvard researchers found that this capacity to create happiness could extend to the third degree of separation. And it can even be translated into real-world economics. “Our work shows that whether a friend’s friend is happy has more influence than a $5,000 raise,” says Christakis.
Christakis and Fowler report:
Clusters of happy and unhappy people are visible in the network, and the relationship between people’s happiness extends up to three degrees of separation (for example, to the friends of one’s friends’ friends). People who are surrounded by many happy people and those who are central in the network are more likely to become happy in the future.
Longitudinal statistical models suggest that clusters of happiness result from the spread of happiness and not just a tendency for people to associate with similar individuals. A friend who lives within a mile (about 1.6 km) and who becomes happy increases the probability that a person is happy by 25 percent (95 percent confidence interval 1 percent to 57 percent). Similar effects are seen in co-resident spouses (8 percent, 0.2 percent to 16 percent), siblings who live within a mile (14 percent, 1 percent to 28 percent), and next door neighbors (34 percent, 7 percent to 70 percent). Effects are not seen between coworkers. The effect decays with time and with geographical separation.
This is why compassionate, life-affirming choices cumulatively create wellness and why wellness and happiness are linked, both being collective phenomena. And it’s why agents of change, like Douglas Dean, the unknown Nobel Peace Prize recipient, could quite sincerely report feeling a sense of reward even though he received little public acknowledgment of what he had done. This is the basis for the Third Law,
The individuals in the group must accept that their goals may not be reached in their lifetimes and be okay with this,
and the Fourth Law,
The individuals in the group must accept that they may not get either credit or acknowledgment for what they have done and be authentically okay with this.
Sing Along and Get Healthy and Happy
Psychologist Martin E. P. Seligman of the University of Pennsylvania, commenting on Christakis and Fowler’s work, made as clear a statement of the nonlocal linkage process in the social context as any I could make—although he may not see it that way—saying,
“Laughter and singing and smiling tune the group emotionally. They get them on the same wavelength so they can work together more effectively as a group.”
I would only add that ritual ceremony using music or dance is the technique of choice the world over for creating nonlocal, linked, shared intention. It matters that we understand, far better than we do, how these linkages occur and how to neutralize or enhance them.
And finally, we are beginning to see actual research showing that making choices that create happiness makes you healthier. One aspect of the individual mind-body linkage is that “a happy heart just might be a healthier one.”
Between 2002 and 2004, Andrew Steptoe, a physician at University College London, led a team that studied whether “positive affective states are associated with favorable health outcomes.” A population of 2,873 healthy British men and women between the ages of fifty and seventy-four participated.
Reporter Amy Norton of Reuters asked Steptoe what his findings suggested. He replied, “These findings suggest another biological process linking happiness with reduced biological vulnerability.”
When she asked, “But if happier people are healthier people, the more difficult question remains: How do you become happier?” he answered, “What we do know is that people’s mood states are not just a matter of heredity, but depend on our social relationships and fulfillment in life. We need to help people to recognize the things that make them feel good and truly satisfied with their lives, so that they spend more time doing these things.”
Love is Wanting Others to Be Happy
In Buddhism there are four “immeasurables” that must be understood and integrated into one’s being for true happiness and spiritual growth to occur: love, compassion, joy, and equanimity. To a sincere Buddhist, the definition of 爱 is “wanting others to be happy.”
In Matthew 22:37–40, Jesus makes essentially the same statement.
You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind. This is the great and foremost commandment. And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself. On these two commandments depend the whole Law and the Prophets.
These sentiments are echoed in most of the other great spiritual traditions. The ethnohistorical record is very clear about linking happiness, wellbeing, and love; and all these paths to self-awareness, enlightenment, if you will, acknowledge both the local and nonlocal aspects of these processes.
Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Happiness
The founders understood the importance of happiness and wrote it into the Declaration of Independence, “Life, Liberty, and the pursuit of Happiness,” by which they did not mean frivolity and self-indulgence. They meant much more what Franklin meant when he used the term virtuous citizen. And the founders were right to place such importance on happiness.
Perhaps it is a measure of how far we have strayed from what they had hoped, for in the United States we are not very happy.
In the 2015 report of the 158 nations examined, the top 10 and bottom 10 nations are:
1 瑞士 149 乍得 2 冰岛 150 几内亚 3 丹麦 151 象牙海岸 4 挪威 152 布基纳法索 5 加拿大 153 阿富汗 6 芬兰 154 卢旺达 7 荷兰 155 贝宁 8 瑞典 156 叙利亚 9 新西兰 157 布隆迪 10 澳大利亚 158 多哥
Fig. 15.1. World Happiness Report 2015
The bottom ranks are not surprising. It is made up of failed or failing states riven by war and corruption, hunger and disease.
But why are certain countries at the top of the list, year after year? That seems to me the important question. It certainly isn’t just wealth or power. Neither the United States (15th), nor the U.K. (21st), comes out as very happy, although very rich and militarily powerful.
Why Are Certain Countries Happier?
The really important insight to be derived from this survey, in my view, is that the Scandinavian countries are overwhelming at the pinnacle of the happiness list, year after year. It is a distinction that should give one pause to ask: What do these countries have in common?
The answer is that of the options available these countries as societies most consistently choose the one that is the most compassionate and life-affirming, the one with wellness as a first priority. And they score at the top of the list year after year as a result.
People who live there feel happy. They can live without fear, give their children a decent start, provide them with a good education, live without fear about health care or its cost. People in those countries know that they will be okay in their old age. Imagine living like that.
©2015 by Stephan A. Schwartz.
The 8 Laws of Change: How to Be an Agent of Personal and Social Transformation
by Stephan A. Schwartz.
Stephan A. Schwartz is a distinguished consulting faculty member at Saybrook University, a research associate of the Laboratories for Fundamental Research, editor of the daily web publication Schwartzreport.net, and columnist for the peer-reviewed research journal 探索。 作者 4书 and more than 100 technical papers, he has also written articles for Smithsonian, OMNI, American History, “ “华盛顿邮报”， “ “纽约时报” 和 赫芬顿邮报.