如何倾听自己:心灵,身体,情绪

听自己:心灵,身体,情绪

我刚刚从与朋友共进午餐,并有一场激烈的头痛。 我不明白为什么。 毕竟,是不是她亲爱的,长期的朋友? 没有我一直期待着我们的午餐追赶,傻笑,并打破我们永恒的饮食?

I stretched out on the sofa and tried to meditate, but I was surprised, even shocked, at the feelings that surfaced: anger, resentment, disgust. Now I had to admit that we had both changed and grown in different ways. We no longer had that spark of commonality and camaraderie that had made our get-togethers so delightful. I was increasingly interested in the latest spiritual teachers, and she was increasingly interested in the latest Jimmy Choos.

Before, we’d united in delicious criticisms of everyone we saw and knew. Now, I strived to see the good in all, or at least not speak ill of them. Not that she wasn’t a generous and thoughtful person. She was. I still loved her insights and sense of humor.

但。 。 。

My mental, physical, and emotional reactions were talking to me.If you’ve had similar experiences, listen. If you find yourself resenting your job, friends, goals, even leisure activities, and you feel nausea or sleepy at choices you’ve made, listen.

我们已经考虑到许多信号的试金石是否以及何时我们的轨道上在我们的关系和工作。 当我们承认信号,加以培养,并注意,他们将始终不渝地引导我们。 这里有几个重要的。

Touchstone: The Appeal to Our Mind

Our minds know. And sometimes protest, defend, reason, and rationalize for not doing what our infallible touchstones tell us. In the Unity booklet Living on Purpose: Creating a Life You Love, Unity minister and poet laureate James Dillet Freeman advises us in his poem “God Meant You for More,”

Listen, be still, can you hear?
The waves of God’s thought
Roll, roll in your mind.

Neale Donald Walsch’s first Conversation With God: An Uncommon Dialogue, Book 1, gives us His advice:

Listen to Me in the truth of your soul.
Listen to Me in the feelings of your heart.
Listen to Me in the quiet of your mind. . . .
Whenever you have a question, simply 知道 that I have answered it already.

Whether we listen or deny our gifts and right work, our minds/bodies know. Wayne Dyer says in 功率意图:

That silent inner knowing will never leave you alone. You may try to ignore it and pretend it doesn’t exist, but in honest, alone moments of contemplative communion with yourself, you sense the emptiness waiting for you to fill it with your music.

Touchstone: The Message of Our Inner Voice

A major way we know is through our Inner Voice. It is a flawless touchstone. The brilliant children’s author Shel Silverstein puts it eloquently and simply in the widely reprinted poem “The Voice,” in his book of poems for children, 坠涨. Most of us taller children can surely benefit too from its message:

There is a voice inside of you
That whispers all day long,
“I feel this is right for me,
I know that this is wrong.”
No teacher, preacher, parent, friend
Or wise man can decide
What’s right for you—just listen to
The voice that speaks inside.

As you probably know, our Inner Voice can be accessed in many ways—in quiet, meditation, nature, or by just asking. Then listen. Certain words may come into your mind, or you may sense particular feelings. Your eye may light on a headline that’s the message you need, or you may suddenly hear or think of a song lyric that holds the answer. You may feel impelled to act.

Whenever you feel perplexed, stymied, disgusted, angry, uneasy, anxious, frustrated, afraid, sick, or any other way that’s uncomfortable or unbearable, and your great and powerful rational mind isn’t coming up with decent answers, ask your Inner Voice.

The more you turn to it, the more you will rely on it, trust it, and recognize its wisdom. It’s always available and always on your side. It knows what is absolutely right for you and is your ultimate friend, ally, guide, and support.

How does the Inner Voice feel? When I get quiet enough to ask in all humility, the Voice is immediate. It’s also certain, calm, strong, and nonjudgmental. It ignores all my “What ifs” and “Buts” and hones in on solutions.

Sometimes the answer is only a word. And that’s enough. Other times the answer floats in as a sentence, or trumpets as a declaration, or winds around as a mini-lecture. However the response appears, the Voice comes with unmistakable certainty and peace.

Touchstone: The Messages of Our Body

The answers of the Inner Voice prompt sensations in your body. Feel them. When I hear the Voice, I feel a lightness in my chest and sense of well-being. All fear in my stomach is gone, and I feel a blissful calm.

When I’m not following the Inner Voice, my body tells me in other ways. In that lunch with my friend, my head ached fiercely. With a writing colleague, the minute after I agreed to critique a story as a “favor” and knew the story was really a mini-novel, I felt a burning in my gut and shortness of breath. When I met a neighbor I’ve never particularly liked and agreed to her dinner invitation, my palms went cold.

But when I had a conversation with a stranger in the parking lot and we could hardly talk fast enough about common spiritual interests and made a coffee date, I glowed. When I was offered a dream-job project editing a heartfelt memoir for a former client I’ve always been fond of, my heart beat faster with grateful anticipation. And when on a winter Saturday I turned from chores that loitered on the to-do list for a year and instead devoted the afternoon to writing a section in my novel, my energy skyrocketed and I couldn’t wait to get my fingers tapping.

Deepak Chopra in 成功的七大精神法则 points us to the touchstone of our bodies. He suggests we ask ourselves, “If I make this choice, what happens?” And he advises us to wait for the answer—given in our body. If our body “sends a message of comfort,” we’ve made the right choice. If our body “sends a message of discomfort,” we haven’t.

试金石:我们的情绪的消息

我们的心情也跟着导游完美我们的最佳选择。 我的朋友雪莱最近告诉我,很久以前的大学相识,蔡健雅,请她参加一个聚会庆祝蔡健雅的新合作伙伴授予在一家律师事务所。 由于大部分口吃,蔡健雅感叹多么繁忙,她恳求雪莱组织茶点和指示,他们必须“行了上面。”雪莱甚至无法捉摸为什么芳姐叫她,他们没有在大学已经接近-much少掉在她这相当大的任务。 但是雪莱,稍受宠若惊,同意了。

她挂了一会儿,说:雪莱,她感到极其愤怒。 首先,它是在丹娘对她的神经和雪莱会记得她,并帮助她的假设。 没有蔡健雅有其他朋友? 与她合作的培养,她不能承受的宴会策划?

然后,更准确,雪莱知道她的愤怒是在自己。 她忽视了她的身体。 当她听到蔡健雅的方向和假想严重困境,雪莱已经感到有些不舒服和精神上拉开。 这一点,她承认对我来说,应该是足够的标志。 但是她忽略了它。 她的情绪和身体都告诉她说没有,但她说是的。

我很高兴地报告,雪莱叫丹娘回来,祝愿她最好的,并礼貌地鞠躬了。 谈话后,雪莱感受到另一种戏剧性的情绪兴高采烈。 当她告诉我,“我站起来为我自己和我的荣幸真实的感受。”

你可能还记得类似或平行体验雪莱的。 在任何情况下或决定,当你感到生气,悲伤,高兴,或任何其他的情绪, 听你的. 它告诉你真相。

试金石,问题聚焦

几个问题可以是知道是否你正在做,保持跟踪你的决定有帮助的。 在乔普拉成功的七大精神法则 建议任何选择的两个问题:

1。 “什么是这个选择,我正在做?的后果,”他指出,在我们的心中,我们已经知道了。

2。 “将这一选择,我现在正在把快乐带给我和我周围的人?”同样,乔普拉指出,我们将通过听里面很快知道了。

与乔普拉的上述两个问题结合起来,你可以问,帮助您揪出和Intuit您的最佳选择要知道,如果你对轨道的任何活动,任务或事件,单独或与他人的其他问题。 对于我来说,最大的“流”活动,正在编写和冥想(有时做一个华丽的烤宽面条)。

当我做了越来越多更好的选择,给自己更多的写作时间,发现我的身体感觉和情绪​​,我已经开发了这些试金石聚焦的问题:

1。 你不知道岁月流逝的,当你从事的活动?

2。 你在这段时间不知道你的身体?

3。 你觉得完全沉浸在活动(或其他你跟)?

4。 你觉得快乐与和平的活动期间的感觉?

5。 你得到你的身体恼火了成为累了,因为你只是想坚持下去?

6。 当你离开或结束,你有满足感和成就感?

7. Are you eager to repeat the activity very soon again? Tomorrow?

Learn your own mind-Inner-Voice-body-emotions touchstones for getting and staying on track or straying. As you do, you will develop the art and intuition of listening in all ways and make many more choices that are right for you. You’ll be happier, more fulfilled, and more giving to others in the right ways at the right times that bless you both.

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